Personal Impact of Job Loss-Part 4

The personal impact of losing ones’ job can be astronomical and customized to the affected individual. This week we have explored the impact on the marriage, family, and friendships when the chips are down and our perceived value is less then that of the greater U.S. economy.

Losing our job is personal and begins when the whispers start around the office. What will happen? To whom? When? Why? What next? And so the new journey begins to the “new” you or so that is what motivational speakers and politicians would like you to believe.

Can it happen? Absolutely! Will a “new” you emerge that is better, stronger, more confident and sure of your abilities? That is up to you and your level of courage. You can swim with the rest of the krill and meet the same conclusions and have the same validating conversations about how you were “screwed.”

You can read books, improve your resume/cv, and even part your hair to the other side. All of these practical “improvements” provide purpose through action all of which I support…with this caveat…Your golden opportunity lies in your ability to understand the ways in which your approach and future successes impact those most important in your life. Beginning with your impact on others will go a long way in your own evaluation of yourself. Too many of us have it flipped.

Many of us feel the need to approach this new landscape as if we were wannabe cowboys like when we were boys (see photo above). The answers are right in front of us if we take the time to ask the right questions and in the company of those who care enough to share the difficult truths. Normal Males please do not forget our opportunity to demonstrate to the boys in this country the power of humility.

Stand up and demand truth from yourself before you reconfigure your resume into another cheap balloon trick. Employers will see right through you and your family will look right past you because you will have sent a strong message that when problems arise we each hunker down and “make” it happen on our own. That is not the message we want to send and does nothing for our gender moving forward.

We are losing the support of the media and the public in drastic fashion often sending messages that we are robots that do not need assistance. This morning on Good Morning America two M.D’s discussed how women are more stressed than men. Are women stressed? You bet they are and we are not helping guys.

The most individual and personal gift we can give to ourselves is by giving back. The loss of a job requires that we share our feelings, fears, hopes, dreams, and understanding for the family impact with others. We are just as stressed as women, but the perception is that we’ve “got it”, and that we are “fine.” Nonsense!

I hope that this 4-Part series has aided in your recovery from something that is quite frankly devastating on so many levels. Be good to yourself and those you love. You have valuable insights that will help redefine manhood for generations of Normal Males to come. I would love to hear your stories so please share and I will comment with suggestions. You can check out more of my thoughts on “Career Talk” on the CBS affiliate in Nashville, Channel 5+, on the 24th (9am and 7:30pm) and 26th (9:30am and 12:30pm) of January. Thanks again for your back-channel emails and comments…I wish you all the best during this challenging time.

Dr. Rod

Rod Berger, PsyD The Normal Male

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  1. Pingback: Do Men and Humility Mix? « The Normal Male by Dr. Rod

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